I hesitate to post this, because discipline is a sticky topic, but I think some of you may find it useful, so with that said, please don’t judge me, I’d just like to share for those of you who are interested…so…here goes.
After reading Creative Correction, I decided to take her ideas and make a spreadsheet to help us be more consistent in the training up of our children. I highly recommend this book its very clever and has lots of great ideas! More than I could share here!
It has been extremely helpful! Whenever a ‘sin’ is committed, we all go to the ‘chart’ and see what the consequence is along with a memory verse to ponder. It has really taken the weight off of me, I simply say “uh-oh, let’s go to the consequence chart! No more ‘mad’ mommy, and no more ‘inconsistent’ mommy! I’d suggest to get your husband on board too, so everyone is on the same page.We make sure to pray together at the end of every consequence if it’s not a Laundry Room consequence, what is a laundry room consequence you ask? Well…
Laundry Room Consequence: (This idea came from a good friend of mine!) I made a small sign that has a picture of a child praying, and a smiley face and put it on the wall in our laundry room. Before implementing this consequence, take your kids into the laundry room and show them your sign. Discuss how things go in there dirty, and come out clean. When we sin, our hearts are dirty and need to be cleaned. The solution is to pray to Jesus, confess our sin to Him and ask Him to clean our hearts. We practice this. Then we look at the smiley face and say that they need to smile until they mean it. When they are done with those 2 things they may come out of the Landry room and come show you their clean heart and new smile!
Click on the links below to download:
- My Creative Correction Chart (Sin, scripture, and our consequences)
- Blank Creative Correction Chart (Sin & scripture only, blank for your own consequences)
- Laundry Room Card
I hope you have found this helpful, and again, every family is different, this is just what we do to help us be consistent and Godly in our parenting!
Thanks so much for creating and sharing this. Anything we can do as moms to be more consistent in our disciplining is a great thing…I know it's something I need to work on! I love the laundry room idea, too.
Thank you! I have CC and love it. I have always meant to make a chart and it's one of those things that never happened. Thank you so much for sharing so that I could be better prepared for those moments. It's hot off the printer and the smiley face is following.
I have been wanting to put something together like this. I think it will be very helpful. Thank you
Hello! Thanks for sharing this! We, too, are working on an If/Then chart and love the ideas on your chart. One question though, I see that the consequence is the same for Hitting/Being Mean as it is for Unkind Words/Language. Could you tell me if this is correct? If not, could you tell what the correct consequence is? Oh, and one other question, when the toy "goes away" after being argued over, it that temporary or permanent (it is in a time out for a day/week or is it given away)?Thanks again!! LOVE your blog!!
ManyStraits: Yes, I repeat the consequence for those two, you could do whatever you wanted though, there’s a blank consequences chart you could fill out with your own if you wanted.When I take a toy away for arguing over it, I usually put it in a ‘time out’ then later they can have it back, if the fighting continues, it goes back into time out for the rest of the day and they can try again tomorrow. I have a friend who had so much fighting she took ALL her kids toys away and they had to earn them back one at a time! I haven’t gone that extreme yet though LOL!
We tried the Laundry Room Consequence yesterday and I shared it on my blog with a link to yours. I am loving all the GOOD stuff I am finding here. Thanks so much for what you do!!!I hope this link comes through.http://thefontenotslife.blogspot.com/
Wow, what an awesome idea!!! I may start this later today, with my two-year-old! I bought the Creative Correction book, read some of it, skipped to the toddler section & never finished it – but she does have great ideas & a great perspective on parenting, I think! 🙂
Thank you so much for posting such a wonderful idea. I love the idea of an if/then chart so much I am going to start using it in our family. I do have one question, how would you suggest implementing consequences when we are way from home (grocery store, restaurant, etc.) where laundry time/room time/ etc are not possible? Thank you again for all the great advice on your blog!
This is a great post – I ran across your blog earlier today and really love your message! For discipline in our house we’ve been using a website called Our Discipline plan. It’s free and its at http://www.ourdisciplineplan.com
Basically it let’s you create an if/then chart for rules and consequences, it also lets you create a place for goals and rewards for your children, and a chore chart as well. One really neat thing is it lets you actually track your child’s behavior and it gives them a behavior rating, if they break alot of rules their rating goes down but it improves again over time. It’s an interesting tool for me as a parent, and also good for the children too! I will say, you can go do X again when your behavior rating is back in the green! Very innovative!
Thank you! Thank God for you! This is God sent. This is exactly what i needed along with your discipline chart, chore chart, house rules….These are so fantasticly, awesome!!!! God bless you….I needed these so much!!!